Posted by John Abodeely, Oct 22, 2009 0 comments

Check out my last post for some written histrionics about leadership. Check out this one for some personalized, written histrionics about leadership.

These are the lessons I’ve learned the hard way that contribute to whatever shred of leadership I’ve eked out over my brief and lucky career. Some have corollaries, hence the indented bullets.

1.    Listen.

  • I’ve never been able to do enough of this. My friend once said, “P.A.D.T.H.A.I. People Are Different. They Have Amazing Ideas.” Sometimes people blow my mind.

2.    We need you.

  • They need you. I need you. You need you. Work hard. Do right. It’s the only way to make a positive difference.

3.    Every dollar you spend is a vote for how you want the world to be.

  • If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.
  • No one can solve every problem.
  • Balancing these two truths is hard.

4.    Harmony is paramount. All interactions must end in harmony.

  • Do not prioritize your goals above others’ feelings.
  • Do not bully, intimidate, or be mean to get what you want.
  • There will be new goals and new interactions coming soon. Those will be sour from the giddy up, if you do not prioritize harmony now.
  • Mean people probably do not think they are behaving poorly, so don’t encourage them to act more hatefully by fighting with them. Everyone probably knows they’re mean anyway.

5.    There will be another meeting. [I heard this at an Emerging Leader conference!]

  • You might not have made the progress you wanted to, but you did something good. Try to identify what that something was.
  • Ideas take some time to sink in. Try again in a few months or next year and see if the conversation is different.
  • The reason to let go of frustration is because you’re not solely responsible for making something work; other people have a hand in it and sometimes they see it differently.
  • Another reason to let go is because you’ll age poorly, get heart disease, or lose sleep if you don’t let bothersome things go.

My father would be disappointed if I didn’t add this one:

6.    “How do you eat an elephant? ... One bite at a time."

  • Break daunting tasks up into achievable steps.
  • It’s not my strongest suit, but patience is invaluable.

We need a #7! Someone pitch in a #7! Everyone, pitch in a #7!

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